No, you're right, I totally have. I even remember the post -- it was about "From Eroica With Love," and my bitter disappointment upon discovering that there was a fandom, but that it was all writing fairly stereotypical romances between the lead characters. And I probably wasn't clear in that post about the degree that this all worked for me because (in part) I was totally and completely ignorant about anime and manga as genres, their tropes, and their relationship to Japanese culture.

It's made me somewhat uneasy on the political level all along, because it smacks of the attitude that has been labeled "orientalism." Plus, of course, the dreaded Cultural Appropriation. But I can rationalize this, and do, by telling myself that I know damned well I'm misreading the relevant works, and not trying to work out anything about their place in their own cultural context from them.

- But yeah. As I've encountered other anime and manga sources, it's become increasingly obvious that some of the things that are so refreshing to me, coming from Western culture, are every bit as patterned and predictable within their home culture as they are new to me. If I read manga long enough and widely enough, I can bet that I'll be as twitchy about the predictable sibling tropes in Japanese popular media as I am now about the American Daddy Plot.

For what it's worth? You're one of the genuinely original writers I don't want to see asked to put labels on all her stuff. Um, oops?